About the Blog and Me and Stuff

The Blog

Umm…This blog runs contrary to what advice-y-izers  (hmmm…there ought to be a simpler word than that) advise; e.g. stick to one topic, post daily, etc.  Gonna write about what I want, when I want, regardless of blog-stat hit-a-bility.  If you don’t appreciate the eclectic nature of the blog, your loss…

You Won’t Catch This Writer Selling Out For Success!

…is mine.  (sob!) What writer doesn’t want an audience? But am not willing to compromise to gain fame.

(Oh, what horse-hockey. Am willing to sell my firstborn and my secondborn.  I’ll even have my uterus re-implanted to sell a third.  Just am not up to blogging any other way than how I’m doin’ it now–sporadically, oddly.)

The blog covers all sorts of stuff, but you can find what hits YOUR interest easily by using the menus, BRILLIANTLY organized by topic:  Science, History, etc. (“Snarky” means snotty and sarcastic. “Popular” means more than one person read the posts. That pretty much covers the really mysterious menu categories.)

Just poke around and find what YOU like.

Right now, I’m trying to post at least weekly. Hah! We’ll see how long THAT lasts!

Now That Is Really Desperate: Changing Your Name to Rhyme With “Famous” (And What’s With That Creepy Freudian “Li’l Sack” Labeling? Ew. Just Ew.)

Me

Here’s an actual sad sack:  Abusive childhood, abusive marriage, abusive health:   Systemic lupus, Behcet’s (I no longer have the vaginal cooties–thank you, meds!), Meniere’s, spine eaten some by the lupus.   I can walk, bend, twist, squat, all those things.  Even hike occasionally.  Standing still is awkward, though.  If it’s longer than five minutes, I gotta rock from side to side like a little kid having to pee.  People either assume I have the bladder and personality of a chihuahua, or I’m more autistic than I am.  Yup:  Asperger’s too, for which I’m grateful.  (If only all the neurotypicals–people without autism–would learn to communicate sensibly.)

Basically, just your average girl.  Other than talking to myself in public, that is.

Thank goodness, have retained my sense of humor, though often I’m the only one amused at what I find amusing.  This is merely a mark of distinction.  Or, possibly, extinction, in the big-picture evolutionary sense.

Speaking of pictures, here’s me (in 2014), and my google+ and LinkedIn profiles, for the most bored among you who bothered to stick this far:

(Sorry, folks, the latter has been temporarily unlinked whilst I cruise the muddy online dating waters of Tons ‘o’ Tuna and “Oh, Hey, Stupid!”–really don’t want any nasty sharks to drill down and show up at my home address uninvited.)

Me Laughing At You Laughing At Me

Me Laughing At You Laughing At Me

Defunct Googley

Linked-y

Why not Facebookety?  Don’t use it. Not Insta, Twitta, or Etcetta 😉

Since you can’t get to those right now, I’ll tell you I used to be:
assistant director, chambermaid, programmer, executive secretary, security guard, technical writer, short-order cook, teacher, telephone solicitor, grant writer, systems analyst, hostess, financial advisor assistant, DBA, and unemployed person. (I may have missed a couple.)

Stuff

Walnuts and raisins.

Eggs benedict. Yummy.

Chocolate chip cookies.
Mmmmmm.

Peanut butter and bacon on toast. Mmmmmm…crunchy.
Too bad I eat only turkey bacon now.

What do you mean, there’s stuff other than food?

Update, 2023:
I no longer post, and miss others the most, but my “oomph”–she is toast.

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  1. I spent six years as a shadow to an Elementary school student with Asperger’s…and then they realized that I was in no way qualified for the job. I guess that doesn’t have much to do with anything…just saying.

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    • It is too bad for the student and those s/he encounters in future that the genuine benefits reaped from your probable excellent assistance are now revealed as only virtual. As befit benefits derived from a “shadow”–what dumb labels so-called educators come up with. (Oh, dear–it surely cannot be: With what dumb labels educators come? Although in this case, that also would apply…)

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  2. I’ve just been randomly reading through your blog posts and absolutely love their eclectic nature, as well as your writing. Am following and look forward to reading more.

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    • It is such an honor to receive that compliment from a writer of your caliber. Oh, shoot–(pun totally intended)–just realized am far from confident of the spelling on that “c” word (despite writing all about guns in “Birthday Surprise”), and after idiotically tweeting “hippocrite” to the world yesterday, plus rolling my eyes and erupting in uncharitable bleats at the pathetic spelling errors made by others, I really ought to check.

      But am in this friggin’ WordPress dumfone editor, and if I vary what I’m doing by a micron–or Angstrom (aren’t those smaller? I’d look it up, but:), to spellcheck, or look something up, everything typed thus far will be as dust in the WordPress wind(ow).

      Okay. Just gonna stop now. Digitally-disinclined:
      Single-phone-finger-typist tired…

      Thanks so much!

      If you AREN’T Michelle–what are you doing reading someone else’s mail? Tsk! But, since you’re such a Nosy Parker, you might want to check out her beautifully-written blog:

      http://www.thegreenstudy.com

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  3. Can’t stop reading, which is bad for my sleep schedule, but oh so good for my brain juice.

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    • What a fantastic feeling for a writer: When someone not only likes what they’ve done, but is EXCITED by it. I honestly don’t know which of your compliments I will treasure more: The fact that you apparently tried to read just about every post (wow.) , which is the one I SHOULD most value, or the one you sent last night via email, which, frankly, was awesome to me:

      ” Wee turtles is f#cking amazing.”

      Thank you, Joey! To show it, here is a link to your site . Now, when the next reader stumbles across The Last Half by accident, they will be able to find your own amazing hotdog-burying-quarters-next-to-redwood-tree drawings.

      Just realized, to be fair would this mean I’d need to add links to sites of everyone who ever wrote? Hah-hah! Like too many readers is big problem! ( You really need to read that with a Russian accent to get the full flavor.)

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  4. I’m amused, and educated.

    Who doesn’t like a crowd, or someone to listen to their thoughts? You’ve got a great blog and great posts.

    Malcolm Lowry: After Publication of Under the Valcano
    Success is like some horrible disaster
    Worse than some horrible disaster, the sounds of ruination
    As the roof tree falls following each other faster
    While you stand, the helpless witness of your damnation.

    I try to keep this poem in mind.

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    • One “great” would have made me feel…well, great. Two! I managed to smile all the way through my work hours this afternoon. Bless you for that.

      Re: being educated, careful: We Aspies are notorious for acting like Know-It-Alls who spout off as if we’re experts, only to say, when corrected, with very little evident humility “Oh? Guess I was wrong then.”

      I had never heard of Lowry, so went and read a few of his pieces. Loved the second stanza of Under the Volcano, too. Don’t think I’m really at risk, but can’t say I wouldn’t be tempted to find out.
      Have been corresponding with a fellow blogger regarding success, hits, followers, or lack of same, and we agree that (I’m putting my words in his mouth, but this is the expanded version of our gist):
      – we treasure the real connections you can make with people; – value the feedback; – are human enough to get stoked when stats go up; – but healthy enough not to be numbers-junkies/stats monkeys. We’re both gonna keep doing our thing as best as we can manage to do it.

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      • That is great advice. I won’t lie, it is nice to have an audience, but it is even nicer to know that you are staying true to your blog, ideas and beliefs. Stay golden!

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      • I used to stress about publishing posts on a schedule, but who am I kidding it’s usually an audience of one. And that’s not a bad thing, since said member usually has nice things to say.

        That’s the only thing that anyone can do. Sometimes I lose perspective in that regard, but I’d rather refocus then lose myself. If my blog were to become another form of trivial social media I’d end it.

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  5. Re: “Audience of one”: You are so right that even one person making a meaningful comment can count for the world. You, for example, have commented meaningfully, and flatteringly, throughout this blog, and for that, I am most appreciative.

    Am wondering if the many, many quality bloggers deserving of more hits are suffering most from a scarcity of fluent readers with vocabularies comfortably at or above h.s. This is a soapbox I can get quite rabid about, and think I did, in one of my posts…

    Rant aborted–whew! Back to your real topic. I’m on this mini posting roll right now, and have a goal of once a week. I won’t say stats weren’t a factor, but it was equally driven by trying to get me off the stick to WRITE. For grim (humorous?) reasons I will blog about someday, the pace cannot sustain, and that will have to be okay when it happens. One must learn to just let it go…let it go. Besides, when would I otherwise find time to stream The Good Wife and True Detective?

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  6. Smiling with you 🙂

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    • I regret to inform you that you win the award for longest un-replied comment–and such a sweet, light-hearted comment, too.

      Please let me apologize, and at long last, return the smile: 🙂

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  7. Yemie

     /  2014/04/28

    Hey Outlier Babe! Been pondering over that ‘word’ ‘Outlier’. Anyhow, I got here from Zaphnathpaaneah, Tope Ogundare’s awesome blog and I found you or perhaps, you found me. Yeah, that’s it! You actually found me! I absolutely loved your comment on one of his posts and it was so uncanny, like you read my mind and echoed my exact thoughts. And I see you have an awesome blog right here and I intend sticking around to ‘devour’ and ‘savour’ of all your ‘offerings’. You’re pretty much diversified too, so much to see and read. Can’t wait! LOL!

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    • Oh, my gosh, I literally just awakened after falling asleep at the keyboard, and what a nice thing to awake to : ).

      So pleased to have you join me–us–over here, Yemie! And thanks so much for the “awesome” : ).

      And now I really am going to bed!

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  8. You. Are. Funny. See? I’ve already started the cyber stalking. 🙂 Seriously though, I like that you’re writing for you. And, of course, hoping for an audience, because who doesn’t love an audience? Blogging is, after all, a form of narcissism.

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    • Oh, I’m sorry–were you (s)talking? All these mirrors are SO distracting.

      Thank you for saying I’m funny, Mommy C. I hope, since this is my About page–the page with my picture–you did not mean my appearance. Because, between that and calling me narcissistic, it is possible you have earned a spot in the Bullying post I’m working on currently.

      P.S. just for you: If you haven’t yet read it, this book is the BEST one on Asperger’s.. I own a copy, but you can’t have mine: “Asperger’s Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals” by Tony Atwood.

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      • Ha ha. I promise my “funny” comment was merely in regards to how you spin words into gold. 🙂
        As for the book, thank you so much! Just ordered it on Amazon. 🙂

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  9. Thanks for stopping by my blog and following. I’m not big on reading, but I love looking at pictures, that is why my blog is short on text and big on pictures. I found you through M-R and really liked what I read. Keep up the good work. I like a woman who sticks to her guns. Keep blogging Your Way. 🙂

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    • You’re welcome–I did it because I liked what I found there.

      I’ll take the compliment (thank you! 🙂 ) even if possibly undeserved, for it just may be that this is the only way I know HOW to blog 🙂

      Gee, that was awfully nice of Margaret-Rose to refer you my way. I’ll tell her so, too, the next time I’m over there catching up on the probable 55 excellent posts she’s written in the last 24 hours (darned prolific woman that she is).

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    • I just saw that YOU have now Followed THIS blog. Thank you! I am very happy to have you here 🙂 🙂

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      • Geez, you alarmed me for a minute there … HOW DOES SHE KNOW … until I checked the date. I just wandered over here from Maggie’s. Same reason Iris gave, one of your comments aroused my interest. Seems a very interesting place. 😀

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  10. I linked with you from A.D. Martin, http://admartinwriting.wordpress.com/2014/08/19/liebster-award/#more-585. Serious stuff with humor/sarcasm. I’ll be reading more.

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    • Hi, Meredith!

      I am looking forward to hearing what you have to say.

      And thanks to you, I see that A.D. has nominated me for a Liebster–how nice! Somehow, I’d missed that.

      I can never do those up right, ’cause never can “discover” anyone (everyone I know is thoroughly discovered, and I have trouble keeping up with their posts as it is), but would like to tackle his questions, so after this current post series, I will.

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  11. If I never return it is life’s cruelty, not a failure of love 😉

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    • To the Goggle-Eyed Bear of the Piebald Hair:

      I spit upon your reciprocal pity-Follow! Plus, why would I want to draw even more attention away from my own blog to yet another talented blogger (with posts such as this one and that one)?

      But if you do care to come back and read a post occasionally, we be cool, and if you at the same time remind me to revisit your blog and read one or two of yours, we be cool as a Bear and a Babe can be. 🙂 🙂

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  12. I hate to tell you. I sold my first and second born children for fame. I actually I sold my third born, but they returned him and asking for a refund. But I still don’t have my fame.

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    • Yeah, the bottom has really dropped out of the kid market thanks to international slavers and outsourcing. Then again, maybe you just have some lazy-#ss kids who can’t churn out sneakers and Iphones fast enough.

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  13. Even the use of the term “outlier” is uncommon . . . although it’s used liberally in “Cold Mountain.” Thought I’d stop by because you strafed through my online studio and dropped a couple of comments (appreciated) here and there. Thanks for that.

    By the way, fame is oversold. At least that’s what I hear famous people saying. If I knew any they would say that. Maybe.

    Infamous, on the other hand . . .

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    • “Strafed?” You just held my heart in your hand for the last hour while I read Graham’s Story, and for some time prior while I read more of your clever poems. “Strafed.” Hmph.

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      • A military plane strafs the land with bullets. I’ve been strafed! Graham’s Story was a cathartic, much-needed release at the time. Nothing back then told of very positive outcomes.

        Graham is in his thirties, married, obnoxious, and living out his “bucket list,” having visited more than 40 countries with his wife, Sarah. No children, but two dogs: Molly and Griffey.

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  14. Oh, Outlier! Thank you ever so for popping over to my blog….otherwise I would never have found you….or it would have taken longer. You make me LAUGH! I love your testimonials. I love your whole funny, articulate, heartfelt About page. You’ve got the courage to be authentically you and that makes me a follower!

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    • Barbara! What an uplifting surprise and awesome compliment–Thank you! I am so happy to have you join me–us–over here, and if I ever again have a computer and home connectivity and can post again (three weeks and counting), hope you, too, will be glad 🙂

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  15. Best Blog Ever! Do I win? (sorry, i tell naughty lie…) Smoke and mirrors. I feel right at home. The Outlier Babe is IN!

    (For readers wondering what the heck is going on here and in the comments following, you’d have to be a bored, thoroughly-patient detective to track the comments and replies by their date-time stamps, and back-and-forth across this About page and two other posts at Stephanie’s site, but for the curious who also want to visit her great site, I refer you to those other two:

    About

    Pups-n-Boots ~ There’s no place like gnome.

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    • “The Best” you JEST? A LIE? I cry…

      …”VENGEANCE!!” 😈

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    • Had to return to admit the win,
      After looking at Stats (to my chagrin),

      I thee you thought, and patht the tetht,
      Tho now you know: I AM the betht 😉

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      • Good better betht,
        Beat your victory upon your chetht!
        Though you won this round I’m beaten and trodden
        But can’t help but notice the deal is rotten
        Those sour grapes have oozed their wrath
        I’m makin whine while you do the math
        cheers, I think ~

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  16. For what it’s worth, I do drop by sometimes and read through bits and pieces. It feels vaguely incestuous AND voyeuristic, too close for comfort maybe? But I enjoy your writing so I come back. And tonight another blogger assigned me a sort of chain-letter task of supporting other blogs. And I just wanted to let you know I gave you a shout out. You may get some new readers, you may not. But I gave you credit, because it was due.

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    • Kind remarks made long back by niece Jenna,
      Long ignored by Aunt O. Babe (hair henna),
      Why is that, one might think,
      Jenna’s aunt sure does stink…

      Yes. She does. Thank you for visiting, the shout-out, and the “credit due” comment. I understand the discomfort re: family references, with our family. I’m going to email you as soon as I finish this comment. Sorry for being an ass.

      …Most at rhyming: “Got change for a tenna?”

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  17. Outlier Babe, so glad our paths crossed via Dear Maizie! Holy cow I adore the roller coaster ride of your authenticity! When we’re at the top of the hill I’m laughing out loud and see your keen insights. When we crash and burn I want to stand next you like a bouncer telling mean folks to BACK OFF! I look forward to laughing and bouncing with you again 😀 You’re awesome!

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  18. Hi there! Just wanted you to know I gave you kudos in a recent post of mine. Bask in the praise. 🙂 http://wp.me/p4yJo8-b4

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    • Dear Mommy,

      I went to bed mean and grumpy, then awakened to this. I am still mean, of course, but the grumpiness is much allayed, thanks to your kindness and poor taste in blog. I cannot say blogs on accounta’ I came this close to wetting myself upon reading this post over at Abby’s place, and the other blogs you listed were pretty decent, too.

      You are a kind and thoughtful person. Or, possibly, not, but you did a mean imitation of one for this mean person on the receiving end.

      Thank you from what would be a heart, had I one remaining.

      Sincerely Slightly Soured on Sweetness (but feeling something that may possibly be related to what others refer to as “gratitude and affection”),

      –O. Babe

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    • SEE how generous? Even with that “were I had one” (since edited), you STILL hit that Like star. You so sweet…

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  19. I like that photo where your pink blouse matches the pink flowers behind you – like you just popped up in the garden: fresh and blooming with smiles. Ha! Says it all.

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    • Ha! Sure pulled the slaughtered sheepskin over YOUR eyes:

      That’s my Hoof-In-Sweet’s-Clothing . As in hidden cloven-type. See those evil eyes? The pointy tail is a bear to (bear ; ) keep tucked, I can tell you.

      Aw, gee, Paul. That was awful nice of you. Those pictures are taken by my good friend A.–not that A., the other one–and show her love for me, which is why I look kinder in them than I really am. (The flowers don’t hurt : )

      It is A.’s nature–irksome to we misanthropes–of seeing the best in everyone. (Reminder to self: “Drop A. as friend.”)

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  20. abbybyrd

     /  2015/02/04

    Hi Outlier Babe! Just visiting you from Little Miss Perfect! I like that you don’t stick to one topic. I don’t like to either. Following you.

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    • OH! The woman who almost made me pee myself! Following ME?! I am not worthy! ‘Course, haven’t yet had time to check out your other posts–maybe that one was a fluke, and you’re normally as wild as Bill Gates’s and Martha Stewart’s love-child (“THX-1138.1.3” in case you’re wondering–hard to keep up–the suffix keeps changing).

      Seriously, seriously-glad to have you join us over here. We’re just desperate for some new victims blood around here!

      Welcome aboard, Abby 🙂

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  21. Oh gosh, so much of you is so much of me. Well, except the health thing. You will find me annoyingly fit. It’s not my fault. Other people made me. Oh, and the relationship situation. But I live in a house full of males (even the cat) so I think some mutual sympathy is warranted.
    Can’t wait to hang out with you and laugh like a couple of rabid hyenas. 😀

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    • So, lemmee get this straight:

      “We’re cousins…Identical cousins, that you’ll find:
      Except that you,
      Have family who,
      Root-roots you on,
      Your marathons;
      While I, lone, decline…
      Yes, cousins!
      We’re two of some kind! ; )

      But yes: You do have my sympathy, cuz. ‘Cuz…obviously!

      (For all that hawking and spitting alone–shudder!)

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  22. I am snooping around in your blog. I saw your name/avatar often at M-R’s post. We both belong to her salon and I thought it might be nice to finally meet 🙂

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    • Hello, Ms. Bug. You cut quite a fine figure, and have always been one of my favorites of the insect world. I am honored to have you stop by!

      I admire your mission in your non-smoking blog. I can understand that, besides the usual health risks, you have an added personal motivation behind your anti-firestick campaign.

      (I hope you found all your children after that terrible tragedy!)

      You see my avatar so often at M-R’s because I run on so 😀 as you may have just noticed 😀

      Thank you so much for landing here today. Feel welcome any time!

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  23. I like the way you think/blog. A palpable sense of humor going on there. Look forward to reading more. Thanks for the visit. Carry on……Van

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    • Thank you so much–for stopping by, and for the compliment. With a life like mine, it was laugh, or jump in the river, and I’m really ascairt of drowning.

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      • Agreed. That levity is life-saving.

        Ditto on the drowning thing. I was a grossly underweight child, and often pulled out in the undertow of the ocean. Rescued more times than I care to admit. Van

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        • Glad you didn’t drown. So that you could read my blog, of course. And because you just reminded me of ANOTHER post-fodder experience: The time I almost drowned inches from the side of a pool even though I’d been swimming for years.

          You inspiah me!

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  24. Hi Babe, I just nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award because of the way you … write. And think. And share what you think by writing. Oh, yeah, there’s another compliment and instructions on my post.

    I feel inspired at my second blogging anniversary, so I pass it along

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    • Hi, Mark,

      Thank you!!!

      (As you and I know, I have already thanked you back at your home.)

      Good old WP. Not only did it NOT send email notification of this comment, it didn’t highlight the notification icon for it, either, or include this comment up there in the corner. I couldn’t be happier with the product, or the product support. Today, when my Win 8 notepad Comment/Reply interface failed, I had to switch to the Iphone. Then, when I tried to use the Reader on that phone, WordPress told me I am following no blogs, and displayed a blank screen (I snapped a photo, for a memento). Argh.

      Thank you again for your kindness. I am so glad you read my post today AFTER I inserted the missing word I had left out. It was less inspiring post without it.
      😳

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  25. Crazy & random but definitely funny – keep up the great work 🙂

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    • Hello, Ray and Friend,
      Only one and a half months later, I see you left this comment. Unlike others of which I was notified but missed due to ennui or some other equally feeble excuse, yours WordPress did not deem worthy of my notice. For WordPress, it seems, is trying to keep my ego in check. Good job, WordPress!

      Thank you for that “great” and “funny”, and I’ll take the “crazy”, too. Heck, even the “random” can be seen as a compliment by someone with a random mind.
      🙂
      P.S. Your friend is cute.
      P.P.S. I googled “Lazy Sundays”, as you knew we would. You are this:
      👿

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  26. Nominated you for Liebster Award.

    Do I contradict myself? Very well, then …

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    • Skip, that was mighty, mighty sweet of you and I bask in the compliment. Considering how slow I am at posting, responding to comments and catching up on others’ blogs, it may be quite a while before I am able to “earn” my Liebster, but the honor still glows bright.
      🙂

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  27. I’ve signed up.
    This is going to be fun, well of a sort. . . . .

    Who needs whingers and whiners when they can have a snort and a snigger with a real person.
    I hope you are, a real person, I mean, not a whinger or whiner.

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    • Oh dear. Real, yes, but a total whiner, I’m afraid. Just ask my sister, Meg. But PLEASE stay for a bit. Maybe you can whip me into shape.

      OWwwww…That HUurrrtsss…
      😥
      I said OWWWwww…
      Weren’t you LIStening!!??

      😦
      (sound of foot-stomp is heard)

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  28. Knock-knock. Where you at, Babe? I am worrying about you. markbialczak@gmail.com. If you stopped blogging but still would like to talk, shoot me an email. Please let me know if you’re OK. xxoo Mark

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  29. Dear Mark,

    I apologize for dropping out of sight without word to my friends, whom I miss, by the way, and think of.

    I am very touched by your kind inquiry. I answered Phil’s similar one briefly a while back to the effect that “stuff” had temporarily overwhelmed me and I hoped to be back shortly. It is looking more like longly.

    A combination of

    -stressful events (nothing in itself insurmountable),

    -stupid health issues (nothing immediately life-threatening, but some matters that do potentially affect life decisions), and

    -finalizing my condo for sale while trying to simultaneously find a new home, yet still not knowing where on this planet I wish to live…

    I’m overwhelmed, and I admit that, for a while, I slid into depression.

    I will probably give up and do a short move locally just to escape my condo, to try to buy me some peace to think–or to trade my problems here for a worse set of problems.
    😛

    This move is made trickier in that I cannot sell first and stay with friends or rent anywhere there are animals while I shop around. Oh–and I cannot rent, period, or borrow money until I sell, because– Ah, but THAT would make a good post–eventually! 😊.

    So: To buy a house in LA with not-enough money, while feeling desperate to move… What could possibly go wrong? ; )

    Keep well, Mark. Thank you again for your kindness.

    –O. Babe

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  30. Outlierbabe,

    Glad I found you. You speak my language (humor). Looking forward to following.

    Sincerely,
    Libby Belle
    alter ego of katharineotto.wordpress.com
    independent country of one
    $world’s only free market capitalist$

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    • Oh, no!! Libby, you must quickly, very quickly, regress chronologically and enjoy me as I used to be, for I am about to go into a distinct gloomy phase of posts (hints of which began before my recent hiatus). I would hate to lose you, now that you’ve found me, for my current crop of vocal followers are such a feeble lot (you hear that, MoSY? Yemi? Mark? I could name more!) we need fresh blood around here.

      (Golly. It’s a good thing no one else but you, Libby–my FAVORITE commenter–will ever read this reply! 🙂 )

      –O. Babe

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  31. O. Babe,
    P.S. Just read your last comment above. Some free advice: Do not buy a house in today’s market. Rent month-to-month if you have to. Concentrate on cash flow. Sell things, if you must. Downsize. It will make it easier to move when you decide where you want to live.
    Sincerely,
    KO! Economic Hit Woman
    alter ego of katharineotto.wordpress.com
    independent country of one
    $world’s only free market capitalist$

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    • Love the “Economic Hit Woman”.
      🙂
      Yes, terrified that bubble will burst before I can unload this blankety-blank condo. That cash flow thing, tho’… And that renting thing… I have a unique situation with both. No solution in sight to either. Really should blog about it. Wurra, wurra, where to find the time… And how to make my situation amusing?

      Oh! I may have just figured out how!
      💡

      Wow. You solved a problem related remotely to economics without saying a word. Impressive, Libby!
      😉

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  32. O Babe,

    Looking forward to seeing what you do with it. Best of luck to you.

    I speak humor too, when I’m in the right mood. Developing a bunch of alter egos gives you someone to yell at when no one else understands. Have you tried primal screaming? It unblocks qi. Just ask my roosters.

    Kaka Big Chicken
    alter ego of katharineotto.wordpress.com
    independent country of one
    $world’s only free market capitalist$

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    • Ha ha ha! I have vocal chord damage from the lupus, so primal screaming is pretty much out. Thank you for the suggestion, though. O (hug)

      I’ll revisit your place at SOME point. I made it over very briefly for one post but didn’t stay to comment. There’s a HUGE backlog of blogs I already theoretically follow but haven’t read posts from since…July. Your post was a book review, and although I’m the opposite of money- and economics-savvy, it was interesting. I’ll say more when I eventually get back there.

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      • Au contraire. Vocal chord damage responds to exercise. Try singing instead. Your vocal chords will appreciate the attention. I’m on a country music binge, because it is so lively and, yes, humorous. Recent finds are Bobby Bare (“Numbers”) and Toby Keith (Lots, but “I Want to Talk About Me”) led me to him.

        The best treatment I know for depression is to turn off the TV and get outside in the sunshine. Even Atlantic Magazine has caught on to “Eco-therapy”.

        The medical racket thrives on making negative predictions, so don’t let all those labels get you down. The body has an amazing capacity to heal itself, if you allow it.

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        • Yes, thank you. I have had sessions with a licensed voice therapist.

          I walk three or more miles a day, almost every day. I watch very little “TV” except when I get on a binge, when I stream an entire series via the net.

          I LOVE to sing. It breaks my HEART that I have been unable to sing normally for two decades. I have a teensy vocal exercise from my therapist, but even with different timers, cannot remember to do it every hour every day. I have reflux which damages the chords further and will no longer take the medications–they were not helping much, and have adverse gut flora effects that may have contributed to my drastically limited diet.

          I tried joining a choir, to get regular practice, even though I can’t sustain singing for as long as a typical choir practice–that would damage my chords further, per both me and my therapist–but it’s LA–land of professional and semi-professional singers. All of the ones within my gas-money economic reach did not want me because I currently have a limited contralto range, and I cannot yet fluently sight-read four and five part harmony. I can’t sight read at all, but I used to, and I’d pick it up again.

          I am doing the best I can to help myself, Libby. I do very much appreciate your thoughtful input. Be assured I listen to myself more than doctors. It is the reason why, although still not perfectly healthy, I am the healthiest person with my diseases of anyone you could hope to meet.

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        • Just noticed I lost the “Libby” somehow! Sorry, Libby! (slapping forehead…now.)

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        • Oh, gosh, another P.S.: And I do sing around the house, for me : ) In short bursts, anyhow. Better than nothing. I really like “I Want to Talk About Me”, BTW.
          🙂

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    • I hope you have hens, too : ) Mmm…fresh eggs!

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  33. It almost sounds like you’re trying too hard, at war with your body, common in auto-immune disorders. Unfortunately, our modern medical paradigm delights in overkill, which adds more performance and approval stress to an already overtaxed body. I get a lot of good information from the Seth series of books channeled by Jane Roberts. Even though they defy the “official” versions of medicine, they validate what I already believed but didn’t have the words for.
    KCO

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    • Good point, about trying too hard. This year, I learned to give in to fatigue more. I even quit one of my two itsy-bitsy part-time jobs–together, they didn’t add up to 20 hours a week–because I realized the irregular nature of the work was just causing too much stress.

      Haven’t heard of those books–will check them out. Thank you!

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      • Most welcome. The books are a little off the beaten track, but Seth does stress relaxation, humor, and play, something I don’t hear much about anywhere else.

        Also, it is well known that the body responds to imagined problems as actively as it does to current stress, gearing up its “fight-or-flight” mechanisms, generating steroids and other stress hormones that wear down every organ system. This means that your body responds to worry as actively as it might respond to a tiger attack. To stop worrisome thoughts and predictions is a major key to health.

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  34. WP is Napoleonetal and I’ll post that updates are ready whenever they are. I should have one ready for tomorrow.

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